Own It To Change It:
The One Secret

Today, I’m going to share a fundamental mindset shift to transform your health, wealth, and relationships.

Over the last 5 years I’ve worked with over 200 people on their journey of inner growth and transformation. This is the one thing I have seen as fundamental to their successes:

Taking 100% Ownership.

The problem is that most people take the easy route by blaming others and pointing their finger in a direction other than back at themselves. It keeps them stuck, in a rut, unhappy with life and not achieving what they deeply know they can.

Key Takeaways From Today:

1. Getting Real With What Is

You may find yourself avoiding confronting the truth because it’s uncomfortable. It requires you to face something you don’t like the smell of, you don’t like the look of, and it certainly doesn’t feel nice.

It may be:

The first step to taking ownership requires courage to face things as they are. To get real with yourself and face the current reality.

You must confront, accept, and acknowledge where you are and where you are not. Like a GPS navigation system, in order to get to the destination (externally or internally) you have to know and accept the coordinates of where you are now.

If you ignore where you are now, resist it, complain about it, start a whole investigation of why you are here now, you have no chance of moving forward and you’ll remain stuck there.

Deep down, we all know the things that we are avoiding looking at. It sits there at the back of our mind chipping away our energy and confidence.

It’s only once we confront it, get real with it, accept it, are we then in a position to create change.

All progress starts with confronting reality.

2. Turn The Focus Within

It’s easy to blame the government, the economy, the weather, the media, your parents, your boss etc. The list goes on. Pointing the figure to anything or anyone outside of yourself for a situation in life you don’t want is easier than pointing the figure inwards.

I have done this many times in the past. I’ve blamed my parents for things, I’ve blamed the economy for lack of financial success, I’ve blamed my wife for the way I feel.

It kept me powerless until I turned the focus on myself.

Blaming others keeps alive the limiting stories in your mind and keeps your creative power trapped inside you.

It’s an easy way out. It’s a way of avoiding taking action. It keeps you stuck in a rut.

Many people live life like this. They live life pointing, blaming, and complaining about other people for the way they feel, their lack of economic progress, their lack of good health and more.

Imagine living life like this?

When you point the finger to anything or anyone outside yourself, you give up all creative potential.

You have no control of other people or external situations.

When you point the finger inwards, you have access to finite potential that can see a situation in a different way. You can then respond in another way and create a different outcome.

3. Ownership is Self-Respect

Taking ownership can be confronting because it challenges your limiting stories that keeps you small. It challenges thought patterns that may have been ingrained in you for years and has become your normal way of being.

Some people see this as a Navy Seal-like brutality. Yes, Complete Ownership is a mantra of Navy Seals and Mark Divine wrote a whole book on it.

In addition to one of the highest forms of leadership, I truly believe it’s one of the highest forms of self-love and self-respect because you are transitioning from a place of powerlessness to a place where you are at the forefront of your creative power.

This is not about ignoring your feelings and emotions. It’s not about blaming or mentally beating yourself up for past decisions. In fact, feeling guilty, blaming yourself, and making yourself wrong is a great way to NOT take ownership.

True ownership is transcending your judgements about yourself and being greater than your disempowering thoughts. Your power lies in the space and energy that is beyond your thinking, your Higher Self, the Infinite part of you which can create unlimited solutions to situations you’re facing – not in the part of your mind that’s keeping you small.

A core part of taking ownership is the ability to forgive yourself, to love yourself, and be your own greatest cheerleader. This is a superpower and essential for those who Lead From Within.

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P.S when you’re ready, here are 3 ways I can support you on your journey of personal and professional transformation: