Thriving Scholar — Executive Coaching & Leadership
How to Deal With That Little Voice in Your Head
Jaineel Mistry
Lead From Within Workshops for corporate leaders and entrepreneurs: I’ve been thinking about hosting monthly 60 minute Q&A workshops. 15 minutes of me sharing a topic/distinction and then 45 mins worth of Q&A and discussion about anything you want to improve or work on. The intention is you coming out the call with more clarity, greater courage to lead, and tips for high performance.
There would be no cost to this. It’s been awhile since I’ve conducted workshops and I’m being called to create them again on a regular basis. If this is something you’d be interested in, please email me back with “workshop” and let me know what would be of most value to you. It will be on a weekday evening UK time. If there’s enough interest, I’ll get them started April onwards.
A little voice popped up saying “am I getting too big for my boots?!”
WOW! Where did that little voice come from?
I was having a conversation with a client this week who identified that he was holding himself back from sharing himself with the people around him. He’s an introvert. A creative entrepreneur and an artist. His work requires him to put himself out there.
In this email, I will focus on dealing with that little voice in your head that constantly seems to hold you back. With some practical tips on how to identify it and go beyond it so you can truly flourish.
Real Authenticity
We all have this little voice within us. Keeping us small. Keeping us in our zone of safety.
Deep down we yearn to be authentic, self-expressed, share our art, greatness, energy with the world yet you may find yourself held back:
Yet what holds us back?
Fear is that little voice and nothing more than that but sometimes it pops up in forms of a “valid” excuse.
When we don’t act in alignment with what we really want, we remain small, we remain restricted.
You listening to this inner voice is the most inauthentic thing you can do. It’s not who you are. You are not your little thoughts. Who you are is far greater than that little voice. Authenticity is coming from a place beyond that little voice.
Winning Formulas
Luckily with this client, we had identified what we term his “winning formulas”. There are formulas our mind makes up during certain timepoints in our lives. It’s what our mind creates after having had certain experiences during childhood.
For example, my identified winning formulas are:
These are algorithms my mind likes to play regularly, all part of the small voice that keeps me restricted from sharing who I really am.
As I have done the work to identify these, I am able to notice them in my day to day life. I can’t get rid of them, but I can be aware of them. Listening to these thoughts and allowing them to restrict me doesn’t feel good but can feel so normal as I’ve been doing so for most of my life. Going beyond these thoughts and acting from a greater place within me can feel uncomfortable, but it makes me feel ALIVE!
Moment to Moment Practice
The inner work we do doesn’t necessarily mean we will stop holding ourselves back. The work is constant. As we grow and expand to new levels of being and personal success, there’s always that part of us that wants to keep ourselves safe and small.
The work is a moment to moment practice. Once you identify your winning formulas, it’s easy to spot how they show up in your day to day life. Once you’re aware of it, then you are able to notice that thought, and go beyond it. Act from the heart regardless of mind chatter.
This is where the work of slowing down to speed up comes into play. It’s like you notice little thoughts in your mind like little hurdles to overcome and the more you notice them, the more you’re able to dodge spending time with them like dodging bananas splits whilst playing mario kart.
A Dose of Courage
This isn’t easy work. The “little” can be a big voice. Only we can make it little by connecting with the part of ourselves that is greater than thought. Our higher consciousness. The more we do this, the smaller the voice becomes.
It’s a practice. Like going to the gym. Dealing with it in the short term can be uncomfortable. It’s easier to focus on taking small steps of courage.
A couple practical question you could ask yourself are:
Begin
When you are ready,
this is where to begin
If you feel aligned with this work and would like to explore whether it is the right fit, you are welcome to reach out. Every enquiry is read personally. If there is alignment, we will take the next step together.