Change Your Identity, Change Your Life

Today, I’m going to share the powerful tool of expanding your identity.

This will allow you to feel more alive and have greater inner peace whilst improving your mental performance.

The problem is that most people stay stuck in their limited stories for most of their life. No matter how much they desire to change, they seem to remain stuck where they are.

Imagine living your life at only a fraction of what is possible for you in your health, wealth, and relationships.

Together with my clients, I have used this tool in my life to constantly reinvent myself.

If you can transform the story you’re living into, you can transform your entire life.

Transforming the way you see yourself

The most powerful minds have psychological flexibility. When you look back on your life and think of a time when you made a transformational change, it required you to BE someone different than who you were before. For things to change externally, you had to change who you were internally.

It required an identity shift.

Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy describe an identity shift as two things:

The top 1% of achievers in this world have the ability to accept a new identity quickly.

This first requires letting go of old identity.

Us humans have a huge aversion to loss. We fear and avoid loss more than we seek gain. This makes it difficult to let go of the 80% that’s keeping you where you are.

“Psychological flexibility is to become increasingly comfortable and adaptive to situations and challenges which are initially uncomfortable to you.”

So, how can you improve your psychological flexibility? Create a new context…

Context vs Content

Recently, I’ve been playing the identity of seeing myself as a tech entrepreneur. It’s just a fun game and story I’m living into. I have been including this in my visualisations every morning and evening. I’ve noticed myself being less stressed when things are not working out, more resilient, and bolder in what I’m asking for. I even have been receiving new ideas.

I’m not surprised by this. By seeing myself differently, I am emitting a higher vibrational frequency and receiving greater ideas. The way I even talk to people has even shifted.

I don’t mind what label I give it. More so, it’s the feeling I am searching for.. The feeling of aliveness. The feeling of expansion. The feeling of fun. It’s a better feeling than the feeling I feel when I’m thinking of myself as a failed entrepreneur (which I have caught myself doing many times….!)

Tech entrepreneur is the context. My thoughts (and my actions that follow) are the content.

Seeing yourself as the context of your thoughts and emotions not the content of your thoughts and emotions is powerful.

As you evolve and expand your context (your identity and way of being), the content of your life will change. You:

The can be a fun game. Nothing serious. And it WILL have a huge impact on your life. There’s no down side.

Your Heroic Self

Part of the Lead From Within process I take my clients through during our work together is creating Your Heroic Self. For reasons outlined above, it has a transformative impact on their lives. People have created new relationships, businesses have exploded, homes have been purchased and jobs and promotions have been created.

It’s a process where you create your character. The person you want to be. The version of you that you know is there deep within you.

We get clear on how you want to live and work. How you want to feel. We even give this person a name, just like some of the world-class athletes and artists do:

We map it out on an A3 paper and stick it up where they see it daily. As they become more aware of this person they start living into the story of this character.

As a result, we see:

As they embed this image within their mind via daily fun practice.

They ask: What would he/she do in this situation?

It’s not always easy, it takes practice. But it’s FUN!

As time goes on, you emotionally evolve and expand as a person when it feels comfortable and natural to be this new standard and identity. And then you go to the next leap in your identity. The journey never ends.

As a leader and high performer, the ability to control the way you see yourself and therefore your state, is everything.

 

Reflection

Ready for your transformation?

If you’re a corporate executive, entrepreneur, or high performer and are feeling deep within you that you could do with some transformative support unlocking your next level and – I have 3 1:1 coaching slots available. Drop me a reply to this email and I’ll send you a form to apply.

Self Mastery Workshops

For those of you that joined the workshop last week, the feedback has been great. I will be releasing July’s date in next week’s email. It’ll be a slightly different workshop with breath work and a visualisation practice. It’ll be transformative!!