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It was Friday night and way past bedtime. The room was warm and my daughter still full of energy when I needed her asleep. I had somewhere to be but she had other plans. I noticed myself tensing, rushing her towards sleep in my mind, wanting the moment to be over so the next one could begin. Then I caught it, and I asked myself the question I keep coming back to whenever I feel this way. What is here when there is nothing wrong? The story dropped, and there was nothing left to fix, nothing that needed to happen faster or differently. What was left was her cheekiness as pure delight, her arm around my neck, the thought that my ninety-seven-year-old self would give anything to be exactly here. Ten minutes later she was asleep, and I got to enjoy the few minutes I had with her instead of needing them to be different. This is the addiction most of us carry without knowing it: our need for control. Controlling how others perform and behave. Controlling how the room reads us on the big presentation. Controlling every aspect of the holiday when the whole point was to experience peace. Resisting reality robs us of our inner peace, our freedom, and our progress. The analytical mind finds its sense of control by deciding what’s wrong. It constantly wants to fix, improve, and solve. After all, most of us have been educated and paid to do exactly this, and for many of us, it’s where we’ve innocently attached our sense of self-worth. The moment we resist reality as it is, we feel lack, we feel behind, we feel like something is missing, and we start creating that exact experience through the lens we’ve chosen to see through. What is here when there is nothing wrong? Ask it, and wait. Breathe. Your nervous system shifts the instant you stop fighting what’s in front of you. As you relax into the moment and breathe, a new way of being becomes possible, and fresh insight is able to land from a mind that’s clear and an energy that’s calm. You respond over react. You experience peace rather than being consumed by your overthinking. You’re able to listen and trust your intuition over analysis paralysis. Where in your life this week have you been making the moment wrong, and what might you see the moment you stopped? Jaineel p.s here’s how I can support you on next steps:
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