Love What You Have
Chasing What You Don’t

Today, I’m going to share a fun way to train your mind to live with more joy, peace, and abundance without the need to constantly chase what’s next.

Ultimately, this is what you and I deeply desire:

The problem with us ambitious high achievers is that we seem to be constantly chasing the next thing. We never seem to arrive, and there’s never enough. Once we have achieved “the thing,” the feeling comes for a moment before we move onto the next chase.

I’ve been there many times in my life and sometimes still find myself there. But this approach has transformed my experience of life, bringing greater joy, peace, and high performance.

For me, this is about being an athlete of the mind: being in control of the experience you’re creating vs. leaving it up to chance.

Imagine the possibilities of a life where you had more goals or intentions to love what you have vs chase things you don’t?

What’s Right with My Life?

Our minds often fight reality, focusing on “what’s wrong.” This lens makes us unhappy with the person lying next to us, annoyed at ourselves for not waking up earlier, and grumpy about the day’s tasks. The more we look at life this way, the more our minds find evidence to substantiate what’s wrong.

What if you practiced putting on a new lens, like when the optometrist tests your eyes with different filters? Here are three ways I do this in my life:

In a world selling you a story of never having enough, you have to train your mind to experience joy, abundance, and satisfaction by looking at all you do have and all that you are.

Appreciate People as They Are

Many of our internal friction come from relationships. People trigger us, annoy us, and are never how we want them to be. Being an athlete of the mind means appreciating people as they are, not as you want them to be.

Early in my relationship with my wife, I experienced friction from trying to fit her into what I thought was right. Deep down, it came from my own insecurity. The more I let go and allowed her to be who she is, the more our relationship flourished.

Focus on what’s right with people: your partner, parents, colleagues. Share with others what you appreciate about them. Notice when you want to change something about others, it usually means it’s something you want to change about yourself, not them. The trigger leaves clues.

Practice “Having Enough” Financially

Many of us desire more money we don’t currently have. Often, our attention is not on the feeling of more money, but the fact we don’t physically have it yet which puts us in a place of lack and scarcity. What if we played a game of having enough, only spending what we can afford, and letting go of instant gratification?

Set an intention for a “spend cleanse.” Stop spending money on things you don’t really need or that fills a void of “not having enough.” This mindset of “having enough” creates a surplus, giving you more disposable income to invest, save, and multiply.

Summary

This practice isn’t about stopping or taming the desire for a greater life. It’s about connecting with a deeper desire within you to feel enough, to feel at peace, to feel abundant. Mainstream marketing wants you to feel “not enough” so you buy their product or service. An athlete of the mind doesn’t buy into that story. They are the narrator of theirs.

Reflection Question

Ready for your transformation?

If you’re a corporate executive, entrepreneur, or high performer and are feeling deep within you that you could do with some transformative support unlocking your next level to achieve results – I have 2 x 1:1 coaching slots available. Drop me a reply to this email and I’ll send you a form to apply.

Self-Mastery Workshops

Our next workshop will be on Wednesday 24th July 7:30 – 8:30pm BST. Where we’ll be going through a 3 step visualisation process to build confidence and resilience live in the workshop and I’ll be sharing more of the science behind it and how you can implement it in your day-to-day routine.

If you want to join, block it off your calendar.

Zoom link to join: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/7053060039